Beyond the Curtain

All the world's a stage.

A space to discover who Dad really is and to discover what Dad thinks about things and how Dad relates to the boys. And to discover, to understand, and then to play the Real Game of Life.

Forgive

Forgiveness is the most powerful weapon you can adopt in life. When you don’t forgive someone, they deplete your energy, your creativity, your peace, your happiness, your power, your control, your whole life. It appears that forgiveness costs nothing, but only the truly strong can forgive, only the truly confident can let go, only the most rich in character can truly forgive someone.This is especially so when you feel the other person is at fault, or that they should apologize to you instead. See that each action someone takes is based on their limited knowledge and world view. It has nothing to do with you. How can it? They don’t know you, only you know your own self and your intention.Forgive, forget, and be cheerful and ready for the world! Nothing can come in the way of the calm and positive man, who takes nothing too seriously, lets everything go, and sees things for what they truly are.

Art

Art is for its own sake; there are no definitions in art, so no approvals are needed. I found that things come out amazing when you do them for yourself. On the other hand, when you do things for others or based on how others see things, they don't turn out so great. Don't do anything for any reason other than you want to make art. And then, make lots of art.

Rules

I honestly don't know the rules of the Dad Game, and I'm making them up as I go. But the boys know that, and I'm honest about not knowing. I see how the "world" works, so we discuss that a fair bit. They overhear work calls all the time; I hope they pick up a thing or two.

Opinions

I always tell the boys: Everyone has an opinion, and while it's fine to listen, let them wash over you. Opinions and advice are free to give and receive, so smile, nod, and move on. What truly matters are your own convictions.Your actions should come from a place of clarity. Remember, other people's opinions often lead to confusion, the opposite of clarity. So, make up your own mind based on your own experiences and form your convictions based on your own views.

Options

The first piece of advice I remember giving the boys was that they always had a choice. Option One was the default: React to whatever is happening or has happened. Option Two was to take a step back and Not React. I reminded them that reacting always leads to complications while taking a breath and remaining calm is simpler. Just choose. Being aware of the choice is itself Option Two. I hope they remember because I never did back then.

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